Changing Things Up a Bit on PaleoHope


It’s a good thing I don’t get paid to blog because I’d be broke.   I’m not good at being consistent with it.  I can go for months without posting then post three times in a week.  I love that I have the freedom to write or create when it hits me though.  So, I’m thankful this is a hobby and not a job.

What have I been up to the last few months then that has kept me away from my blog?  Well, a lot of stuff.  Nothing earth shattering to keep me away this long except for the simple fact that my life is evolving.  I’ve been struggling with how to write with what’s on my heart when what people expect to read here is recipes and health related articles. With that being said, I haven’t hidden the fact that my blog name is not just Paleo but also Hope-as in “Hope in God in all things”.  I’ve been feeling the urge in my heart to write more about this side of it.

I am guessing I will turn some people away with my writing about God…that’s ok with me.  I will not deny Him (Matthew 10:33).  That’s the cool part about writing your own blog, you can write about whatever YOU want and if people read it, awesome!  If they don’t, that’s fine too.  I write not just for others but also as a form of release and creativity for myself.


I’ve struggled with how to go about adding posts that are strictly about God when this blog isn’t just about religion/faith.  The more I pray though and the more I read the bible, the less complicated it seems.  I need to not worry what others think and do what is right for me.  I have many doubts in myself…I’m not a theologian, I don’t know the bible front to back, I don’t know a lot!  I’m a sinner, I’ve been broken, and yet I remind myself…we all are.  Maybe, just maybe the words I type will reach someone in a way they need and God will use me as his vessel to help someone.  Even one person.  That is enough for me to push on and type without fear.

I can’t tell you how many posts I will write in a month and how many of those will be about food, health or God, because like I said above I am not very consistent with it.  But what I can tell you is that I will be writing more about my faith and if that’s not something you want to read about then that’s ok.  You can choose to keep following my blog and only read the Paleo type posts or you can choose to unfollow.  I have a heart for God and I have been feeling an intense calling to share some reoccurring thoughts so expect that soon.

I’ve taken a big step back from some things in my life in order to spend more time in prayer.  If you follow me on Instagram and noticed a drop in my posting there, that is why.  It is easy to get drawn into social media and forget the things in our life that really matter most.  The people in front of me, time spent with God, my calling to be first a wife and a mother.  PaleoHope is NOT my main priority.   There are times I have to check my pride when it comes to Instagram.  Seeing how many likes a picture received, how many followers I have, etc. at all hours of the day.  I realized that is not a feeling I enjoy.  My worth is not dependent on any of that.  It’s fun to interact but I have to make sure I’m doing it for the right reasons and not for my own glory.   So for now, I leave you with this:

He said in reply, “It is written: ‘One does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes forth from the mouth of God.”  Matthew 4:4

Food alone does not sustain me or fulfill me, and my blog will be a more true reflection of my life from here on out.  I pray that God blesses you in many ways today.

I Changed My Focus To Change My Life


I never cease to be amazed at how much things and people change over time.  One day something that means so much to you right now may not even be a blip on your radar a year from now.  Then there are things that will transform your life and you never see it coming.

When I look back at who I was 7 years ago, I was so naive about how difficult life could be.  Until suddenly my husband was diagnosed with cancer and everything changed.  Our lives were dramatically altered in the blink of an eye.  He was 28 years old.  We had two little girls, one was three and the other a 13 month old baby.  He was supposed to come home from his doctor appointment and say he just had kidney stones.  I wasn’t prepared to hear him say the words “I have a 4 inch cancerous mass in my abdomen”.   Those words, they shifted the course of our life.  I can still feel all the emotions, and picture his face as he dropped to his knees, grabbed our daughters and held them close.  He looked up at me with a tear stained, panic stricken face and repeated those words to me.  It was the scariest year we have ever faced.  Multiple surgeries, months of chemo, hundreds of blood tests, and countless CT scans.  Cancer consumes your life and makes you view things in a different light.  I thank God every, single, day that he is now cancer free and thriving.

So much was taken away from us during that year though.  Yet, so much was given to us.  It’s funny how that works.  God always has a plan for everything.  We lost the freedom of our youth and the freedom to be naive about how difficult life can be.  We lost so much more, things that are just too personal to even put into words.  The gains though, those things, they make the battle a little easier.  We gained the ability to live life like there is no tomorrow.  While at the same time, knowing the vital importance of also planning for tomorrow.  When you face a battle such as cancer, you tend to view life differently.  You realize how short life is and you truly appreciate the time you have a little more.

As years went on, we got busy with life and let some of our healthier habits slip.  I was still very conscious of cleaning supplies and things we used in our home but when it came to food I personally lost my focus from “healthy” to wanting to be “skinny”.   If I could go back in time and beat myself with a big stick for that, I’d do it in a heartbeat.  The ironic thing is I had somehow convinced myself that skinny equated to healthy.  Thinking if I cut my calories to a measly 1,200 a day I would achieve some stellar level of health.  Oh how wrong I was!!  I ate well enough, but definitely not enough, and not enough of the right things.  Sure, I lost a lot of weight, but I also had no energy.  I suffered from almost daily migraines, and my joints started to ache.  So much so that I couldn’t even function enough to lift my child out of our truck and almost dropped her one day.  It was at that moment that I started to fear what was happening to me.  The weight I lost had crept back on and I even gained back more weight than I had started with.  I was miserable with my body and even more so with how I felt physically.

I went to doctor after doctor.  Eventually I was diagnosed with multiple nutrient deficiencies.  I was given scrips for them and it helped me feel a little better, but I naively thought that it would solve all my problems.  WRONG!  Sure, it helped for a short period of time.  Until things slowly got worse.  I didn’t realize how bad I was until just day to day functioning was out of the range of things I could do.  I felt like my body was on a roller coaster of symptoms.  The whole time all this was going on I was so concerned with being thin that it never occurred to me that could’ve been big part of my problem.  I had quite literally starved my body of the nutrients it so desperately needed to survive.  

Then the day came that I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.  I will forever remember that day.  Driving home, I cried so hard that I couldn’t see the road. I knew enough to know, this would be something I would face for the rest of my life.  Autoimmune disease (AI) is where your body self attacks in some way.  You can put autoimmune disease into remission but you still always have it.  To top that off, once you have one AI you are three times more likely to trigger another autoimmune disease.  One that could be life threatening.  After having been through one very serious health battle in our family, I refused to put my family through it again.  Those are not odds I am willing to take.

Nobody ever thinks it will happen to them.  The cancer diagnosis, the autoimmune diagnosis, news of a miscarriage, or loss of a loved one.  We never see it coming.  We get so caught up in the unimportant things of life that we often forget what really matters.  That was the day that I decided to start living the Paleo lifestyle and I never looked back.

This isn’t a blog post about how amazing Paleo is.  (It is though so don’t get me wrong!!)  This post, is about a wake-up call.  The wake-up call to anyone reading it who thinks that the key to feeling great is getting skinny, or that being thin is the answer, or that losing tons of weight will automatically mean healthy.  Working out is amazing, I will never discount that.  But you can work out all day long and still die of a massive heart attack, colon cancer, or multiple sclerosis if you don’t first care about the food that goes into your mouth.

There are so many products on the market right now with sales pitches to lose weight and look great by replacing meals with shakes, and so on.  I’m not at all trying to single anyone or any certain thing out.  Quite simply, my heart breaks at the thought of anyone having to hear the words “you have cancer” or “you have an autoimmune disease”.   As I sit here and type this, I have hot tears streaming down my face, my emotions run strong.  If there is one thing I could tell someone and pray that they heard it deep in their soul, it would be this….

Don’t ever lose focus on being healthy first, by putting your health at risk for your physical appearance.

Because one day you may be like me, and look back and want to kick yourself for being so ignorant.

Here’s the kicker.  When I stopped putting so much focus on how I looked, and I solely focused on my health, all the weight I had gained melted off without effort.  I started to love my body.  Not for what it looks like, but for what it does for me.  I can wake up and step painlessly out of bed. Migraine free. Before my alarm even goes off, because I’m no longer exhausted.  This body allows me to make food for my family, pack lunches, do laundry, clean a house, hug my kids, play with my kids, do yoga with my kids.  Do yoga not just on my own but teaching others as well, three days a week!  This body is well cared for now, and loved for the vessel that it is.

The day I changed my mind from treating my body like an object I hated, to realizing it is my temple and the only place I have to live, is the day I changed my life.

Year In Review 2015 and Resolutions For The New Year

  
I have always believed that bad times serve a purpose.  Though they are definitely not any fun, they are a necessary part of life. Without those bad times we wouldn’t fully appreciate the good times.  This last year and a half has been rough for my health but in every other aspect of my life it has been one of the best years I could ever imagine.  It has been a year of true healing for me, not just physically but emotionally as well.  Physical and emotional healing go hand in hand, to heal the body we must heal the soul.  My family has been through a lot the last few years.  The stress took its toll on my health.  Then 2015 had its way of restoring so much for us.  I regained a lot of my health and feel more alive than ever.

I don’t want to sugar coat all I’ve battled this year, because 2015 started out with me getting needles shoved in my neck and being diagnosed with Hashimotos, then adrenal fatigue and MTHFR a few months later.  Then leaky gut, and candida overgrowth, hemochromatosis, severe gluten issues (possibly celiac), 5 big mercury fillings that need dealing with, kidney stones, and gallbladder issues.  And thats not even the full list!  BUT, through all of that…I have had the best year of my life.  Seems crazy to say doesn’t it?  Its not though.  While the physical has been a challenge and a struggle, I have discovered a strength within myself, and a constant support and true unending love in my spouse.  Those two things are so valuable to me, absolutely priceless.

Discovering this inner strength has helped me persevere and change my life from the worn down, fatigued, migraine ridden, pain filled, sick person I used to be, to a woman who has the energy to do anything my heart desires.  All of that physical pain is gone now.  Sure, I’ve still got some healing to do but I’m nowhere near how bad I was a year ago.

There is something about a year ending and a new year beginning that causes people to reflect back on the last year.  It’s not really that anything is going to dramatically change from December 31-January1 (like people so adamantly believed back in Y2K), but its more the reflection and introspection that takes place that causes change.  People make New Years Resolutions because thinking back on the past year causes us to mentally review the good and bad in our life.  It causes us to think of the things we want to change, the things we want to grow and keep and the things that need a good swift kick in the butt to leave.  Whether it be an illness, a relationship, 30 pounds, or a thought process that needs to go.  New Years is the motivator a lot of people need to make those necessary changes.  Sure it’d be great if we just made these changes anytime throughout the year and didn’t wait to start on January 1, but its better to start then than to not start at all.

That is what I did last year.  I had spent a few months leading up to New Years researching Paleo and very slowly making a few changes along the way.  Once the New Year hit all bets were off and I came out with guns blazing.  I hit the research hard, overhauled my diet, took on necessary healthy habits and changed my life.  I tell you this as motivation.  To tell you that it can be done.  Lives can be changed and people can take what was a worn down life and make it new.  GAIN. YOUR. LIFE. BACK!  Don’t wait for someone else to help you, a doctor to heal you, or the changes to just happen.  Do it yourself and do it now.  Your life will never change until you decide to make that change.  Don’t live life on the sidelines watching others run and play with their kids or grandkids, others radiating joy and wishing you could experience that yourself, or even getting out of debt and not living with that burden.  It all can be done.  I promise you it can be done.

  
One year ago that was me wishing for those things and today I sit here a new woman.  So full of joy, peace and love.  I truly believe it was the soul healing, the soul searching, and the emotional growth that lead to the physical healing.  The Paleo diet has had a massive positive impact on my life and my families life, but I never could’ve taken on a diet like this and stuck with it had I not made the necessary changes within myself also.

We can’t live our life playing the victim as a sick person and expect anything to change.  If you want your life to change then damn it, get up and CHANGE IT!  That quote “If you don’t like where you are move, you are not a tree!” is so very true.  The only thing holding you back is yourself.  Our circumstances are what we make of them, we all have the same number of hours in a day.  You can spend them sitting on Facebook all day or you could do some research on the same internet to find out how to eat better.  Then get up and go do it!  Excuses like “I don’t have the money to join a gym, and eating healthy is expensive” are complete crap!  Sure eating all organic expensive but a bag of organic apples is also the same price as a bag of Doritos or a case of Mountain Dew.  Doing squats in your living room, following along to a youtube yoga video, or walking around your neighborhood are all F-R-E-E.  Excuses are just that, excuses.  I’m sorry if this seems harsh, but I can say it from a place of knowing.  I’ve been there and lived that life. It’s no life to live. 

I ache to see people happy, thriving and doing well.  Living the life of their dreams.  I sit here in the still quiet morning, and pause to think of what changes I want to make in the New Year.

My list is short and in no particular order,

  1. Continue on my healing journey to heal my body of years of damage and neglect.
  2. Further invest in the relationships that matter most to me and weed out the ones that drain me.
  3. Grow closer to God.

Writing them down makes them more real and tangible.  I’d encourage you to sit down for a few minutes and do the same thing.  Get a piece of paper and reflect on the last year and what you want to change, then write it down.  Make some goals and work hard to reach them.

So tell me, what are you going to achieve this year?  I wish you all the happiest year ahead!  Filled with countless blessings and goals reached.

 

The Power To Heal Comes From Knowing You’re Worth It

  
It’s true.  You can’t and won’t heal from almost anything in life until you realize…you are worthy of healing.  Worth implies value and that equates to healing. How so?  Simple, it can take time to heal, it can take love, it can take monetary funds, it takes support, and it takes determination.  If you don’t think you’re worthy or of value then you won’t spend the time, money or reach out for support in order to heal.  You won’t have the determination or self love and there’s a good chance you won’t feel the love others have for you.  

I’ve been there in the past.  Not physically like I am now, but emotionally damaged and hurt.  Desperately needing healing for my soul.  That can be when it’s the hardest because when you’re soul is damaged and you’re hurting so fiercely that waking up hurts, how can you possibly feel worthy?!   IT IS HARD!!  

I wish I could tell you an easy way, a tried and true method, but I can’t.  All I can say is it took trust, hope and faith.  Trust in myself and others, hope in a brighter tomorrow and faith in God.  

It didn’t always matter what others said to me because if I didn’t in my heart believe what they were saying about me then their words were meaningless.  Their intentions meant something though and that was where I started.  I had to believe with even a tiny morsel of trust that what they said was true.  That I am worthy of healing, love, time, and so much more.  Because if they devoted their time to me and energy to say these things then I meant something to them for whatever reason.  Those reasons where what I was in search of.  So I prayed a lot!!  Gods grace helped me get through each day and eventually it got easier.  Each day I loved myself a little more and I discovered new reasons that I was special and unique and of value.  I found talents I didn’t know I had and interests that I find exhilarating.  It’s part of what makes me who I am.  

When you’re at your worst is when God can do His best work.  It leaves more room for Him to do something miraculous.  

The same can be said with health.  Which is where I am now.  Struggling to regain my health and then maintain it.  I’m at a point in my life now that I know without a shadow of a doubt that I am worthy of healing.  I’m worthy of the time it will take, the funds it will cost, the support it requires, the love I need from my spouse and family and I’m very determined.  That doesn’t mean I always do what it takes 100% of the time to regain my health. I slip and fumble sometimes. I eat things I shouldn’t. I don’t workout enough. I don’t relax enough. I don’t sleep enough. I don’t always take my supplements on schedule.  I sometimes let petty things get to me which can lead to stress.  In spite of all these failures, I see them as hurdles and challenges instead of reasons to quit.  The old me, the hurting me that I didn’t find worthy, would’ve said “nope can’t do it!  I’m done. I quit. I’m not worth it.”  I wouldn’t have invested the time to do the research that has lead me to this point.   I definitely wouldn’t have invested financially into this battle as much as I have.  I thank God I’m not in that place anymore.  

Through my struggles and pain a stronger me was born.  I like this me. This me is definitely worth the fight.  

So tell me, what are your thoughts on this?  Have you ever experienced this same feeling?